I think this may be the key. He recently left this job for good, and not only ignored me for 9 whole months while we worked closely together day after day, but on his very last day, he wrote long cards to everyone at work saying bizarre things, like how much he'll miss them, he loves them, they were his friends, etc..and he wrote me one sentence that said, "Good luck in the future"something sterile and cold like that. Their actions are devastating and to the point its making me physically sick. Everyone was shocked. That's relating - we don't all live in a bubble. Once you take the course, you can join our online community. I deal constantly with snide behaviour and short remarks. Many of us make excellent eye contact, at least some of the time-often because we have learned this is an expected behavior. Any advice would be appreciated. Once I said that he shut down. My daughter Bianca is autistic. But opting out of some of these cookies may affect your browsing experience. Very paranoid. Ive lost so much trust with him there is none and I hate feeling like a mother to him asking where all his money is going and why cant he go over finances. We had been hanging out for a few weeks, finally kissed, and then I havent seen her since. I,m there now my friend.. Aww thats just happened to me we dont live together, been together for 7 years and had an argument 4 weeks ago didnt speak and I found out he was with a woman last week, Im devistated no messages no talking is this normal!! We had so much in common too. Ive presented him with two examples of responses as I read that this can be helpful to someone with ASD to not feel so overwhelmed by over analysing their response. On the other hand I want to pursue the relationship and work on it. Is overwhelming. She is really competent on the social behavior and I forgot her diagnoses often. I think anything before that was just "strong attraction" or a crush. He does not want to be tested. Each episode just makes me want him less. I have been thinking hard about what I want in the future. Has an amazing job and extremely successful. He never starts a conversation. But the pain they inflict is devastating. Also I want you to consider that what you perceive as demands, or very dramatic expressions of emotions by NTs is perceived quite differently by NTs. Hope you'll feel better soon! Aspies don't make eye contact. They clearly do not know what is going on. But its difficult as Im such a caring, loving compassionate person. Unfortunately, I do have to acknowledge that there are some people out there who take advantage of others. Believe it or not, this is quite common for Aspies. They fail to take into consideration the person into their reasoning. Strange question I know, but it is sometimes overwhelming as a woman to feel that there is no man out there who understands. Im not really sure if I am overreacting, but I get worried whenever he behaves a certain way that makes me feel uncomfortable and worried for him. I tried to reach out and talk about what happened, our feelings and he shut me down saying it has no sense to talk about that and that all has already been said. They have been so convincing in their story that I am the most disgusting, vile person on the planet, that total strangers fear me. Kathy, I am the NT in the marriage with the man who I love dearly. with. Dear Victoria, Thank you for your question. I didnt realize he was AS at the time, I overlooked a lot of his behaviors and just thought he was different, but after seeing this drastic shift in personality, mixed with all the other quirks and traits, I knew 100% he had it. So I took a big step back from my relationship with him and a big step towards my relationship with me. 32 years later I have turned myself inside out trying to please my Aspie husband and doing what he likes. If they stop biking he stops connecting with them. Im always angry snd acting out , so Im the problem and believe I have failed miserably. Your decision to protect yourself came at the expense of losing someone you cared for (and cared for you). Nothing was wrong ( that I knew of) he is hyper critical at everything I do, it has to be done his way or its wrong. Im currently being froze out by him and we havent spoken properly in weeks. Stay tuned. When I brought up how he doesn't express how he feels or take proactive steps he backed off a bit. You thought about it, rationalized, and gave them the benefit of the doubt. I understand its is autism but it hurts me because I love him dearly but he cant see a future with me. I just couldnt do it. I dont want it to be dragged out if he no longer wants to be with me but I also dont want to abandon him if hes taking time to come out of a freeze loop. I found him and paramedics saved him. Your email address will not be published. Im afraid I have hurt him too much for him to come back. Communication is complicated by the fact that Aspies have trouble mentally putting themselves in another's place, a trait known as "mind-blindness". In my experience, its not about what they have, its about what they need to be able to become a better person to have an understanding that they cannot be abusive to others. He will either; a) pick on me or b) tell ke to not touch him, not go near him or just he silent. It feels very good to meet someone who can follow you in conversations that you can't have with most people. We havent had sex in over a year (he has refused, even when we get along well, because he doesnt trust me emotionally (since a number of times over the last year I have gotten angry and done something like the above). They gave me the silent treatment for hours, fell asleep, and as customary for them, woke up as I was drifting off to scream at me for not talking to them (obviously forgetting conversation is a 2 way street). If the other person isnt ready yet to hear your feelings, then what you are supposed to do is give them the time to be ready. When I recognized what I had done wrong and tried to reconcile, I was expecting us to talk it out like most friends do and move forward. dispite all these small but significant things I really do love his kindness his honesty and generous to a fault. In part 2 of this series, differences in NT-ND identities as they apply to relationships are explored. Maybe you can not see through healthy eyes because you have issues from your own past. He also added that we would just make the best of it by pretending to be married because he didnt want to disappoint his family. Now let's move onto more genuine and solvable reasons. I am so sorry you are going through this, I too went/go through those episodes with my boyfriend. When I tried to open up about deep and painful stuff, they just said, hmm. It really hurt. You need to be there for you and your child. I just want things to return to normal, because now Id know what to expect and how to handle things and stop taking things personally. Please give me some advise. FG B, 1,000s of times, whre, dead fish, no spring chicken, mentally ill, bipolar, crazy like insert name here, brooding, hypocrite, liarI cant even remember them all. You felt like they were ashamed to be with you. I have been in a similar situation over the past three years with a guy I strongly suspect to be aspie with Co-morbidites ? He stood up and left the room and asked me to leave the house. I believe that many who are healthy minded ( I dont enjoy categorising people) people who have never experienced the difficulties with someone who experiences Aspergers symptoms, just like anyone else, is a new experience. But what we can do, is be authentic and build a meaningful life. There are probably posts on here about it; I'm not sure. Here I was left with 2 babies. Was he an aspie? The cookies is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Necessary". I am getting the silent treatment at the moment. His father had narcissism and was very ugly about my husbands learning disabilities. When hes out he falls back into as I call it living in his own world. By detaching oneself from an expectation that cannot be fulfilled, we are free to live with what we really have. His end point was that, this time apart will help me in knowing if I want to be in a relationship with him, as he will not be able to give me what I want in terms empathy, affection etc from that point onwards I started to understand that he has actually taken time to reflect on his behaviour and doesnt want to ruin my life or make me unhappy, as he is not going to be able to change his ways. I found that simply leaving him alone helped him to sort things out so I would let him know I was going to go out and just go shopping, take a ride, whatever to keep myself busy and give him space. I read a book a few years ago on "sociopaths in the workplace" and I was stunned by the figures. You started feeling free to say what you really felt, to talk about things dark and uncomfortable, things that would make most people think you were crazy. Hi Rachel. This person was different. He cant just put his wife away on hold while gaming takes priority all the time! The silent treatment is really a cruel form of abuse and it includes more, like ignoring and shunning, and treating you as if your opinion doesn't count. I left the house and the day I was moving and finishing packing my bags he was casually asking me what should he put in his smoothie, asking about food properties and pretending everything was ok. At first he didnt want this break but then agreed that it would be good for us given the constant tension we were living with. Hi! Unless you live in Utopia or Disneyland, he will not maintain or learn. I really want to just run away but he says he's suicidal and I'm so stressed out that I'm physically sick frequently. Or the conversation may never come, out of the Aspie fear they will be overwhelmed again. But since he got a new job and everything start messy up. We ..us NT,s as they call us.worry about saying the wrong thing in case a meltdown occurs where they go silent or disappear. Not that I am aware of. No matter what he does for me or buys me.he throws it back at me. I started feeling like a puzzle piece that anyone could fill if they were OK with parallel play and doing what he wants to do all weekend. I'll post references on my own blog soon enough of where you can find out more. He has cast me aside for the second time, saying he doesnt have the energy for me, and I know I wont hear from him for months. Cooked for him non stop, bought him little gifts, embraced his kids etc. Go now. I decided that I was happy in the relationship but we had to break up because I asked him only twice in 6 months if he would ever consider marriage later or if he knows that he wants to be a bachelor forever. I think I make it worse by constantly trying to get him to talk. So, make sure you focus on a career, hobbies, friends and make a happy life for yourself. I could tell from her persistent texts, calls, and voicemails that she was upset and had a hard time moving on, but I felt more relieved every day. The sensory issues that used to overwhelm you didnt seem to have as much power as they used to. Yesterday I hurt my husbands feeling when I asked him to stop speaking while I was driving. I want to stay healthy this time around. You deserve a loving normal individual in your life who can have a date with you, talk to you, look you in the eyes, hold your hand, kiss you. I want out of all of this. My boyfriend knows I have anxiety issues and that his silent treatment only makes them worse, and yet he seems incapable of doing anything about it. This is because they do not see solutions as a joint effort. So embarrassing. Hes reluctant to admit that theres a problem. They even take their friendship beyond the office and talk about the bike rides they went on or the other activities they did together. It took me years to reclaim my life, and only after I found emotionally safe professionals and friends. Is it hard to date an autistic man? Others will appreciate your gifts. His eyes show no soul inside. I dont know whether this is the end?! Receive small business resources and advice about entrepreneurial info, home based business, business franchises and startup opportunities for entrepreneurs. She would look intensely into my eyes, we would have hilarious conversations, and totally bonded. Its a challenge. Your kids will figure out Dad is different, but the rest if the world will never see the whole picture. It will be a long, cold, lonely, life. The silent treatment is painful, but it helps to remember that its not my fault. . Next conflict was him stopping me in mid conversation to say he was bored by what I was talking about. He supposedly had many stalkers, told elaborate stories and his exs were supposedly all too needy or crazy (red flags I wish I noticed early on). Almost immediately we moved in, I began to become overwhelmed with the life changes required and within a week I wanted to run. I myself am having trouble just getting through my day. I am aspie also. I care about her and want my friend back. More often than not, it's my partner who resists the change. The cookie is used to store the user consent for the cookies in the category "Other. Once the lovebombing phase is overbecause its way too much for thembe prepared for the mask to slip..see the truth. He just isnt feeling great. Let them knoe that you still love them but that this is not healthy. Its nearly been 2 weeks since Ive heard from him. 2. A fascinating topic as I'm an (undiagnosed) aspie male in my late 40s and recently had a very intense relationship, culminating with me 'going cold' and ruining everything in a single evening. Dont give up on either of you, but never put up with the abuse. Then do not mask in the beginning. Is there any hope he might decide we should be together again. He seems incapable of understanding the effect his depression and shutting me out has on me. Thank you so much, Kathy! I went to our Rabbi about it a couple of times, and the Rabbi would like to speak to him about his anger problems (a few months ago he said some horrible things to to our eldest son), but he refuses to see the Rabbi. Your partner needs a good psychologist to unwind things. His silence is profoundly impacting me and has slammed me into serious anxiety and depression. Protective order in place. We use cookies on our website to give you the most relevant experience by remembering your preferences and repeat visits. He was the one that mentioned asperger's first. Its a long story, but yes,I did hurt him unintentionally. I mentioned a specific example about something related to money and he got so verbally aggressive saying I was a crazy person and that he would finish this conversation because I was saying stupid things. A bus driver with Asperger's Syndrome who was called an 'illiterate imbecile' and 'sp****' by work colleagues has won a 30,000 payout. This page has made me realize there are others like me and it is somewhat comforting. Kotb was replaced by World News Tonight anchor Tom Llamas during her first day out and Craig Melvin stepped in for her second day of absence. I was struggling to deal with his alcoholism and depression. It becomes too much so mask does slip. I dont know what to do. There is no disagreement he just quits contacting. Ive been with my highly intelligent boyfriend for 8 months and this is the second time he has ceased all communication with me for days on end without an explanation. Healthy Professionals may either agree or disagree. You are a free human being who can decide for herself if she wants time apart or if she wants to be in this relationship. Being that she is a coworker I can't reach out. We admit we do not know what NT's mean by 'love', especially as NTs are so duplicit or at least fickle. He says Im such a good person he doesnt feel like its fair and I deserve someone better than him. Girl: [Puts DVD back on shelf] Guy: "What the hell are you doing?" People generally feel safe if they believe they can solve all problems. At the time I had no idea of my limitations as I'd never been truly in love before, but communication rather than cold, unilateral action is the key. This time, I want to look at self esteem and depression; Self Esteem The aspie relationship with themselves is tedious at best. I know that a lot of us, including me, struggle with social interactions, like understanding others because of the innuendoes and the unspoken for example, but also being understood by others and to behave in a way . He then moped around work looking lost and depressed for a while, but never made an effort to talk to me even though we worked super close together, and hed even go out of his way to avoid me at any cost (in the hallway, elevator, etc.) By the time I was in junior high, it was easier to keep my distance from people than to explain why I couldn't have them over. He has no friends and only has me. And sometimes he will shut down and while being silent send a news article to me about something funny or relating to my likes. When I asked him is it something I did he said its how he is. So far this time it has been 5 days. I too have experienced much the same as you. I feel like all I have to do is to attract his attention to the issue and only a professional can do this, not me. Not everyone in a NeuroDivergent relationship experiences this level of narcissistic abuse, however. When I ended up things I believed he would continue to live under a rock and now it annoys me to see him as this fun, social, new person that I desperately wanted him to be while being with me. As we all know, relationships can be difficult and complicated at times, but when one partner has Autism, many more difficulties usually arise. Today I walked out and came back to my parents house because I feel punished and abused. I felt lied to and discarded. If . Hi there, Is there a virtual meet up with wives of Aspie husbands available to join or anyone available just to chat via phone about life with an Aspergers husband? He will not want to discuss your tender feelings. I try to comfort her in her bad times. He is very high functioning. Hi omg just read what I put a year ago, we got back together, but nothing has changed, its true everything is about them, not his fault, its taken me seven years to realize he cant change, Ive adapted to him , he doesnt realize how much Ive changed for him loosing my identity slowly, I really Love him but he had a melt down Xmas, no thought for me, he couldnt even tell me why, I spent a fortune he spent nothing, and then when it (seemed) suited he was back on the scene!! i feel I have wasted years on this man who blames me for his misery yet i have devoted my life to our family . Part of me understand what is going on in his mind and wants to support while the other just knows it is not my responsibility to heal wounds rooted in his childhood and I need to preserve myself. I,d rather die than be where i am againthe pain is relentlessInvalidation after all the support i gave Then notice when there is an opening and offer to listen instead of desperately try to discuss how you feel. In order to reduce anxiety Aspies often go silent or check out for days. It was going ok for us for a couple of weeks we saw each other at weekends. How can he just shut off after being so intimate. They can still learn to be better people, just like everyone else. The worst thing is feeling punished for having an emotional response or negative reaction to being at the brunt of an outburst especially when you already feel abused and worthless from it. Its very sad because I thought we were happy together. I need some advice. Can he learn better relationship skills? He simply has not been able to verbalize that he has feelings for me. This person had been abused, overlooked, mistreated, and devalued. The arguments increased. Being blocked or froze out for days is really destroying. But, those flaws seemed to be their favorite parts of you. For anyone with AS needing to back off in a relationship -- talk it through, write it, email it, whatever, but don't make the mistake I did. My last texts werent answered, and Im worried I might have accidentally miscommunicated in a way that she took wrongly. I have serious concerns that my husband might have Aspergers. You pulled away from friends and family because they couldnt understand what this new world, this new you, was like. For the context Aspie is referred to people who has Asperger's, and NT is a person with normal brain. Wow, Im so glad I found this page, with current posts still flowing in! They don't know why they don't like it but they can think of lots of fancy excuses. Next time I want to look at the role that Depression and Self Doubt plays in causing aspies to back off on relationships. Yes it is heartbreaking but also a symptom of the terror that can grow in the mind of an autistic person. I paid the price for the next 30 years. He was super patient with me. Here's a phrase that I've seen repeated throughout the comments on this blog on several occasions; "I know that he won't miss me when I'm gone because he's aspie" Today, we're going to (try to) bust that myth; Individuals I'll start off with a reminder that everyone is an individual. This is one of the biggest reasons. Its a disappointment issue. I felt alone all the time, even though he was phisically there. I hear ya sister! You'll feel better too, it just takes some time. Luckily we are not married and do not live together so if we do separate there is less at stake, except my heart and a long investment. Myths About Asperger's Syndrome. He has a strong distrust of therapy because when I mentioned I might start going to counseling to address my anxiety, he rubbished the idea. Hes been arrested for theft of stupid things. He is extremely caring, loyal and goes out his way to make me feel special at times. Wow, just wow. Be grateful that you have the stamina to do so. I also believe that it might not get better because two people need to talk and adjust to be in a relationship, and that shows he cant talk about anything that makes him uncomfortable. So yeah, as the title says, I never had a date with anyone in my life, but I was wondering how dating is going for other aspies. However my old wounds from my mother and so fearful it would end I definitely think I sabotaged that relationship or he was just a charmer but the point being that when my husband was in jail I was bombarded with letters, calls. Its so so hard being at my place, What ever i do seems to make things worse. Even though he says we are just different and that nobody is wrong, and that we get along great and have a strong connection, he refuses to talk or work things out. We are still friends on FB and she still follows me on Instagram, but just puts me on read and not responding. Every day that you navigate the social world and do it beautifully - reminds her that she is a failure. Take care. This is simply not true. When I asked if hed like to meet and talk, he said he had nothing to say, and does not want to. Im 56 now and I shouted last night after trying calmly to sort a small misunderstanding out. My girlfriend says that she can tell when I'm going to go cold. He has always failed to communicate or solve things jointly without it going very badly. I just discovered my husband was has ASD(undiagnosed) but still its pretty obvious once you know what to look for! That I was sorry for all the times I had hurt his feelings. A lack of empathy and any emotional attatchment. It has been a journey, im still trying to process many things, the gaslighting, and still have feelings that I was maybe the crazy needy person in the relationship. I don't expect him to provide for me or anything like that, I have always been good with money so I have a lot saved up for when I go back to school, but he spends every cent on video games and nonsense. 15 years inshell of myself, goals unmet, dreams deferred, hopes dashed, weight gain, depression, addictions!! Autism aside, this behavior is abusive. He will not change. If you question him, he takes it personally. At first when he was just a bit hurt he reacted by getting angry at me. This is one of the things that leads me to think he has Aspergers/ASD. Love should be a joy. I found out that he has been talking to her and hasnt disclosed it. I too am dating an Aspie. I find following my own silent pursuits, yoga and meditation, help me recenter. We have been together for over 2 years. Im sorry by any mistake. I am so happy I came across this thread. You are not asking for too much, but your husband needs a good therapist too. It's not personal, just a reflection of how the concept of social reciprocity is a struggle for us. But the other side of the story is that NeuroTypicals want to believe they are safe in the world if they are empathic. I am guttered. Hes my absolute everything and my whole life and future is with him. I try to keep that in mind that they are NOT being vindictive but just the stress and ASD wiring causing the shutdown and silent, avoidance treatment. I don't know is the answer. So later that week I asked her if we could talk. He blows over the smallest thing. We know that many problems cannot be fixed. The problem for people on the Spectrum is that they think of love as a thing rather than a dynamic process. The stay-at-home mom of two teen boys in Connecticut says life with her husband, Rob, a successful computer engineer with Asperger's syndrome, is "like riding a roller coaster 24/7 without . I guess Im the only one he wasnt talking to. 7. He took off today for a few days, wouldnt tell me where he is going, and Im going crazy. %. Once at school, you're at the mercy of the timetable but apart from getting the right books to the right classes on time. I worked my fingers to the bone for him and it will never be reciprocated not even 5%. I suspect my husband is an undiagnosed aspie. You thanked the person, but do you think this is the right or healthy way to conduct a relationship between two adults? I wish I would have yielded to the red flags and told him, NO! This has happened in the past and I have been understanding and asked only that he be 100% transparent with me in the future if it happened again. Bc in a way what my mom did was right but what she caused was just to get me to herself which shes done so many times in the past. He instead emailed my lawyer saying Ill pay for whatever she needs to deal with her mom yet wont call me back or text me back. 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